Saturday, June 14, 2008

To Be Continued…

again.

Another continuation. Interestingly, the judge on this case seems to be as disgusted with our inability to come to an agreement as we are. Unless we submit to an evidentiary hearing (basically a mini-trial where Matt and I both have to call witnesses), he refuses to make a decision for us.

I can't say I blame him. This whole scenario is pretty absurd.

The good news? I got some VERY positive feedback from the Child Services counselor who met with us. I'm not at liberty to share details, but let's just say Matt's whole "mom was depressed, therefore she's dangerous" line of reasoning is not holding any water with the people involved at the court level. Not surprising to most of us =)

Thanks to all who responded both here and in private email -- knowing you were thinking of Calder on that day gave me such a sense of peace. I am humbled.

Watch this space -- we go back in two weeks.

6 comments:

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

I am so heartened by how much stronger and more positive you sound since I first discovered your blog. I hope things continue to go well for you and your beautiful boy.

I Hope So said...

the "mom is depressed so she must be dangerous" line of reasoning makes my blood boil. there are mental states that are far, far more dangerous than depression... like ignorance, self-importance, selfishness, oh, and the one where you call your little boy's mommy dangerous!!!!

you know, they say that you can never understand the love a parent has for a child until you are a parent yourself. well it's also true that you can never understand the pain and confusion a child goes through when one of his or her parents attempt to characterize the other as evil or defective in some way - unless you are that child. it hurts to have one half of you be portrayed in such a way because in a child's mind, that means that one half of themselves is evil or defective.

much love and courage,

mandy

The Wrath of Dawn said...

Not sure what it's like in the US, but the courts here don't thank you for taking up any more of their time than necessary.

As my ex discovered.

lu said...

I'm with you all the way.
150%

Farrell said...

been there, done that.
my ex tried to use a similar excuse in our custody battle. Guess what? It didn't hold up.

sending good karma/positive vibes & thoughts and prayers.

Scrivener said...

Oy. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. I'm a little heartened that his argument isn't holding up, because my one-day-ex has been sending me these threatening emails trying to argue that because there were some dirty dishes in the sink when she dropped something off here, that I am dangerous to our kids. I'm thinking that her stupid line of reasoning won't go anywhere, but it's scary.